Crossroads…(How do you know when youre making the right decision)

Earlier today, I was engaged in a conversation that was pursuant to an epiphany I had experienced…

It’s been a few months since I have posted, and I have to say I enjoy that I’m usually drawn to this platform when I feel deeply challenged and sufficiently inspired.

To you who may be reading this, I’m happy to say that, today is one of those days. I’m happy to be back…

How do you know when you’re making the right decision?

Every decision is a life decision, despite its significance, it has the potential to change the trajectory of your entire life because no matter how trivial, it remains a catalyst in its nature.

I am currently an aupair with an exchange program and after almost two years, i realised that I’m no where near packing  to head back to my homecountry. Financially I’m not ready, mentally I’m not prepared and emotionally? hah! Well that’s a story for another day.

I have been presented with multiple options to extend my stay, none of which are easy or guaranteed,and as a result ive experienced many a sleepless night in light of this. For the past couple of weeks i had resorted to fasting and prayer,reading books and watching videos in search of some kind of direction mainly because one of the extension opportunities may be the best, however just never crossed my mind, due to its somewhat questionable nature.

After a few weeks of soul searching, I realised how adversity will reveal your true nature. You will inadvertently learn more about who you are and ,if you hadn’t, you will discover something to stand for, because its true that you will otherwise “fall for anything”

In all my experiences i have been described as “the good girl” unlike my peers who are more “ride or die” “do whatever-it takes” kind of people. Ive been chastised for being principled and irresolute, told indirectly that because of that id never make it in this cut throat world. I am no longer affected by such opinions because ive discovered my intuition and I’m learning that I don’t have to fit a mold.

Consulting with people you trust also tends to play tricks on you because of the relational bond, and as a result it becomes easy to skew your perspective in their favor, however uninformed, ill-fitting or biased their advice may be. Remaining unaffected by their view is impossible and therefore knowing who you are allows you to know when its time to shut the mental blinds, or filter the knowledge as necessary.

So if you’re making the right decision, how do you know?

First of all, find out who you are and what you stand for.

When faced with a decision, never betray yourself or what you stand for.

“Never negotiate your sense of integrity.” Caroline Myss

Your psyche isn’t drained/you’re not mentally bothered by the decision…

“If it’s in God’s plan, He will make provision” therefore whatever you choose should not “cost you your peace.” 

“Always do what’s right, not what is easy.” Unknown



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